All parents find it hard to separate from their babies regardless of the reason. Whether it’s because you are working, traveling or just at the grocery store, you can ease your baby’s separation anxiety and your own by doing things that foster your loving relationship.
It’s never too early to introduce memorable traditions you can share with your baby. As your child grows older, he will find comfort in familiar activities and experiences. By introducing positive and developmentally appropriate routines early on, you can help your child develop the love of reading and other valuable skills. By giving your baby undivided attention during your one-on-one times together, you will strengthen your bond.
Read Together
Story time is an intimate and meaningful way to bond with your baby. It’s a great opportunity to share hugs and to build the foundation for the love of books. Select a few special books that you often read together. Babies and young children will love listening to a good story from a parent or grandparent. As they grow older, take opportunities to read classics together. Your child will grow up remembering great stories and your shared interest in them. When you are apart, your child will think of you when hearing those same stories.
Play Special Games
Playing with your child and giving her undivided attention is so very valuable. Spend time together with games and activities that are just for you two to share. Whether it is finger painting with mommy, playing peeka-boo with daddy, or playing with a special train set at grandpa’s house, she will look forward to your cherished activities together.
Celebrate and Plan for Specific Dates
If you are going to be away for a longer period of time, mark your return date on a calendar and plan a celebration for that day. For toddlers and preschoolers, this is an enjoyable way to practice counting and to learn about the days of the week. Talk to him on the phone about what you are going to do when you are together again.
Establish Hello and Goodbye Traditions
Making a positive game out of hello and goodbye is great fun for everyone. Little ones get a kick out of hiding from their mommy or daddy when they come home. It’s a joy to watch them surprise you time and time again. Memorable goodbyes can be as basic as a meaningful hug or something more in-depth like walking daddy to the train. Create an atmosphere where you and your child are comfortable with your separation and look forward to your reunion.
Create Picture Albums and Videos
Make picture albums of your baby with you and other loved ones. Talk about the stories behind the photos as you look at the albums together. When you are apart, leave the album with your child’s caregiver so they can sit with your baby and talk about those same stories. Babies and young children will be comforted by the familiarity of the family album. Create special videos or audio recordings of you reading your child’s favorite stories. Your child will be delighted to hear your voice and to see your face when you are apart.
Finally, remember separation will be easier on both of you if you remain calm and positive. Starting early with these ideas and repetition of your shared activities will make a positive impact on how your baby grows up to except and appreciate a your time apart.