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Pregnancy Q & A
Answers to Common Pregnancy-Related Questions

Find It NowWhen is my due date?
Your due date, called the estimated date of delivery (EDD), is calculated from the date of your last normal menstrual period. To calculate your EDD, subtract three months from the first day of your last period and add seven days. For example, if your last menstrual period was April 4, 2005, then the EDD will be January 11, 2006. Your due date is an estimate. Most women have their babies within either two weeks before or two weeks after the date.

When will I feel baby kick?
Most women will perceive fetal activity between the 18th and 22nd week of gestation. First movements may feel like a light tapping or fluttering sensation. Many describe the feeling like "a little butterfly" in the lower part of the abdomen. This initial sensation of motion is called "quickening". As the baby grows, the movements become more distinct and can sometimes, when abrupt, feel uncomfortable. Regardless, fetal movement is not only exciting, it makes the baby a reality.

My friend told me not to stoop or reach for things because this will cause the umbilical cord to wrap around the baby. Is this true?
No, this is not true. The baby is attached to the umbilical cord which is attached to the placenta. The baby, cord and placenta are covered by amniotic fluid and all are contained inside the uterus. It is like a thick rubber balloon filled with water with the baby attached to a tether, which is attached to the wall of the balloon. The baby can move in any direction and as he/she moves, the cord moves too. The baby can spin of his/her own volition wrapping and unwrapping the cord around itself. This can be seen on ultrasound. It does not matter what position you are in or how you move. The baby's movement is independent of yours.

When should I see a doctor?
Assuming that you begin your prenatal care early, the first visits are done monthly until you are 28 or 32 weeks. After 28 weeks, visits are every two weeks until you are 36 weeks pregnant. From then until the onset of labor, visits are weekly. If you are pregnant with a medical problem (for example, heart disease, diabetes, mellitus, etc.), or if your pregnancy becomes complicated, then you will be seen more often by your health care provider.

Can we have sex?
Pregnancy is a normal physiologic process; thus, it does not preclude a couple from engaging in sexual intercourse. What must be taken into account is each partner's desire for sexual intercourse. Many women may find that in the first trimester their desire for sex may be diminished. This can be due to changing hormones, physiologic changes in their bodies, and normal discomforts of the pregnancy such as increased urination, nausea and vomiting, and easy fatigability. Partners must be able to communicate with each other in order to express their sexual needs and desires. Patience and understanding is necessary. As the pregnancy progresses into the second and third trimester, desire may return only to be hampered by the enlarging uterus. Experiment with different sexual positions (i.e.: side-lying, kneeling, and woman-on-top). Maintaining a good sense of humor through these various maneuvers is key. For couples who engage in oral sex, there is a word of caution: do not force or blow air into the vagina. This can cause air embolism (air bubbles that can enter the blood stream) which can result in serious complications and even death of the woman.

There are certain conditions which may preclude sexual intercourse during pregnancy. Pregnant women who are at risk for preterm labor, those with premature rupture of membranes, those diagnosed with incompetent cervix (a cervix which dilates without signs or symptoms of labor), those who have had a cerclage (a stitch placed around the cervix to close it), those who are diagnosed with placenta previa, and women with a history of miscarriages should talk with their health care providers about sexual intercourse.

Why do I have a dark line from my belly to my naval?
As pregnancy progresses, your hormone levels greatly increase. This results in increased pigmentation in certain areas of the body. Women will notice that their nipples and areolas (the area around the nipples) get darker and that the linea nigra (dark line) forms from the naval to the pubic bone. Some women also notice darkening of the skin of the forehead around the nose and eyes, which is called chloasma or the "mask of pregnancy". All of this resolves after the birth of the baby.

How much should I gain?
Weight gain during pregnancy depends on several factors: your pre-pregnancy weight and stature, the size of your baby and placenta, the quality of your diet before and during pregnancy, your genetic background, and the number of previous pregnancies. A woman of average size with an average size baby eating a well balanced diet will gain anywhere between 20-35 pounds. Do not worry about the amount of weight gained. If you are underweight you will gain more weight than expected; if you are overweight, you may gain less. Weight gain is always appropriate for you if you eat well balanced meals consistently. What is most important is that you do not attempt to diet during your pregnancy.

What is the most comfortable sleeping position?
Only you can determine what is comfortable. Initially, you will probably maintain your normal sleeping position until you are no longer comfortable because of the enlargement of your uterus and abdomen. Women who routinely sleep on their abdomen may find this occurs by 16-18 weeks of pregnancy and may revert to sleeping on either their right or left side. Women who sleep on their backs may continue to do so until 26-28 weeks at which point they may revert to sleeping on their side because of the weight of the uterus on their back. Regardless, many women by 34-36 weeks sleep on either side with a pillow propped under the knee and leg for support.

 
 
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