Nine Months
...Too Long to be Uncomfortable!
Having a baby is a wonderful time in a woman's life. You have the privilege of bringing new life into the world. It is all that you thought it would be…and so much more. But what about the things that people never tell you about; or perhaps they mention them, but never went into detail? Discomfort, constipation, sleep deprivation, stretch marks, aches and pains are all common ailments during and sometimes after pregnancy. However, there is no need to fret. There are ways to combat the "not so pleasant" issues related to pregnancy.
Prenatal Discomfort
Stretching of the skin
OK, yes… the baby needs to grow inside of you. And yes, your skin is made to stretch. But what do you do when the stretching of your skin not only begins to itch, but actually begins to hurt?
Well, your body is expanding daily, so you need to make sure you are lubricating it daily (even twice daily). The latest buzz in organic products suggest items with shea butter, coconut oil or olive oil. Some women use mineral oil (post bath or shower) all over their bodies, while others prefer high-end belly lotions/oils/butters. Choose the product that suits you best. Just make sure you enjoy the smell because you will essentially be bathing in it daily.
Inability to get comfortable in bed
Many doctors and professionals will advise you to place pillows around your body to aid in comfort. But every pillow is not made for every head, or in this case back, knee or ankle. If you are experiencing lower back pain, you probably need a pillow that will fit between your knees and/or ankles. If your pre-pregnancy sleep position of choice was your stomach, then you need a pillow that will allow you to sleep on your side while elevating your top leg. Whichever pillow you need, make sure that it will fit the contours of your body where you need relief. There are pillows designed specifically for the prenatal body such as wedges, body pillows and sleep positioners. Find something that will give you the comfort that you desire and allow you to rest.
Leg cramps
These are not the normal Charlie horse cramps, but the type that will pull you out of a Rip Van Winkle-type slumber, and they can be killer! It could be an indication that your body is lacking calcium or that you extra weight has aggravated your sciatic nerve. Some women even get Restless Leg Syndrome (RLS). When a cramp happens, try standing on the offending leg and perform exercises that will stretch the muscles. Another alternative is to wake up your mate (like I did) and have them massage your leg until you fall back asleep.
Varicose Veins
This is a condition where blood pools in your veins due to weak circulation. Weak circulation will cause your veins to basically "freak out" and get gnarled. That is the quick and dirty explanation. The best ways to combat varicose veins while pregnant include: (1) regular exercise; (2) avoid standing or sitting still for long periods of time; (3) elevate your legs when resting; (4) avoid extended exposure to heat; and (5) use compression hosiery (support stockings) with graduated compression to promote blood flow. Recognizing that pregnant women want to be fashionable and have no desire to walk around wearing their grandma's support hose, you can actually purchase sheer leg wear that looks like regular pantyhose or trouser socks, but provides you with the necessary compression.
Back Pain
Of course your back hurts! You are carrying at least thirty pounds in front of you. The back is trying to support the weight and wants to keep you from toppling forward. What you need is a back brace designed specifically for pregnant woman. It's called a maternity support belt. For women who have previously had back issues, there are even stronger supports which may be covered by insurance or may be reimbursable through your flexible spending account.
Post Partum Discomfort
Southern Soreness
The area down there is going to hurt after you give birth. Here's a hot tip: ask the nicest nurse you can find to hook you up with some extra cool packs, witch hazel pads and Cinchocaine (or Dibucaine or whatever topical anesthetic they have). They say that they are only good for the first 24 hours, but doctors will tell you to use them as needed. Another thing you will love is the "Sitz" bath. Become one with the Sitz bath. It will provide you with relief during the days you are home without a nurse button to push. And make sure to bring your own super-duper extra-absorbent overnight sanitary napkins. The hospital version is not nearly as comfy nor as adhesive as your tried and true brands.
C-section Pain
A pillow or cushion to brace yourself when you cough, sneeze or do anything that requires abdominal muscles is so important, especially while holding/nursing the baby. You will also want a cooling wrap/pack for the incision area. It will help reduce swelling and help relieve pain.
Nursing
This can be a painful and difficult experience for new moms. There are topical ointments available that can aid in relief. If you are having problems or are frustrated, you are not alone. Ask for help at the hospital. If the consultants or nurses on staff make you uncomfortable, find someone that you like. You can also hire a good lactation consultant. Ask for a recommendation or call your local breastfeeding resource center. After you've given birth, people are supposed to be nice to you and help you transition. KNOW that and don't get frustrated.
Nine months is a long time to be uncomfortable, but you won't remember it after the baby comes…unless you kept a detailed journal, like I obviously did.
