As a registered nurse, specializing in newborn, infant and pediatric care, I often find parents who despite their joyful welcome to pregnancy and parenting, there is an equal feeling of fear and apprehension. Beginning with childbirth and continuing through high school graduation and beyond, parents face the challenge of making the right decisions as their children move through the stages of infancy, childhood, adolescence, and young adulthood.
In today’s society of mass communications and technology, information is easily accessible via the radio, television, journal publications and the Internet. Researching options in childbirth education, the latest in infant care and treatment, solutions to sleep disorders or the latest trend in disciplining your toddler can bring forward a wide variety of information, opinions, and alternative solutions. Parents often feel intimidated and confused as opposed to feeling confident they have secured valuable information and resources to assist them in their decision making process.
Parents and those who are expecting, often turn to familiarity when seeking the right personal options. One might turn to a family member or friend, or perhaps their physician, clergy or co-worker in search of reassurance and validation. Regardless of the connections you make, it is imperative to surround yourself with strong resources and a good support system. Attending classes on childbirth education, parenting principles, or classes that build confidence and skill such as infant massage or infant/child CPR is essential in overcoming the anxiety we all face when making decisions that impact the life of a child. Surrounding yourself with factual information, building upon your current knowledge base and maximizing your personal strengths and skill sets contribute to the power of positive parenting.
Building a network of peers is another great way to overcome the trials that all families face in a world of abundant choices. Networking opportunities such as Mom’s Groups, interactive music, art and language classes, and organized physical activities such as tumbling, dance and theater are great ways to meet other parents who are standing at the same crossroad, and who are experiencing similar challenges in a specific stage of growth and development. Reaching out in your community and joining organizations in your area will maximize your support systems and will hopefully spark the beginning of some lasting friendships for both you and your child.
When it comes to family planning, childbirth options, and parenting there are no right or wrong answers, or one perfect equation that will equal success for everyone. Each family must embrace what is best for their personal situation, and offer guidance and support to the next generation. As long as a child feels love, acceptance and validation as a unique individual, parenting does allow for a margin of error and a forgiving heart. Seeking out educational opportunities and building a social network of peers are essential tasks in achieving intellectual and emotional support. Through education, peer support and networking, parents can not only minimize personal fears and anxieties but will maximize confidence and success through preparation and planning.